Trust After Cheating – How to Put Your Trust in the Right Place
Article by TW Jackson
The hardest part about the aftermath of cheating in a marriage, for many people, is learning how to trust again after cheating. Trust after cheating is in short supply. It’s hard to recover quickly from a blow like that and many people are afraid to put their trust in the person who has hurt them so terribly in the past. Have you ever thought that perhaps you need to figure out how to put your trust in the right place instead?
The honest truth is that it’s hard to just put your heart and your trust back in the hands of the person who hurt you and leave it there. For this reason, many people are unable to save their marriages. But, what if you could put your trust somewhere else while the relationship is in the rebuilding phase? What if you could place your trust in yourself and your ability to put the past behind you and move forward instead?
It’s not exactly easy to trust yourself after you’ve been cheated on but for many women in your shoes it is easier to trust yourself than to trust the man who hurt you.
Here’s what you need to do to trust yourself after you’ve been cheated on so that you can give your marriage another chance.
1) Forgive yourself. It’s hard. Most women blame themselves for their husband’s cheating. It was not your fault. He made a decision that is hurtful to you. He knew what the consequences of his choice could be. It’s not something that’s easy to do. There is no sudden epiphany of understanding and acceptance. It’s a choice you must make and it will take a little time to accomplish. Let yourself off the hook for his actions and accept the responsibility for your own.
2) Embrace hope. Don’t shy away from it. You should be hopeful about your future and your marriage. It may take more than a few instances of forcing yourself to accept and embrace that hope before it begins to feel as natural as it should but once you do you’ll both be happier as a result.
3) Work with your husband to solve the problems in your relationship rather than turning to every one you meet on the street, friends, and family members. When you look within the marriage to solve the problems and work together on solving them you’ll both feel better about your prospects in the future.
Now is the perfect time for you to make positive decisions about your future and even get your ex back if that is what you want.
About the Author
Cheating is only the end of your marriage if you turn your back and allow it to be. If that’s not the choice for you then you can’t afford to miss out on this free video: http://www.magicofmakingup.com that will help you pick up the pieces of your broken marriage and build a better marriage than ever before.