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Love with Long Distance Between

This is not a game for two.  It can be so very hard at times to see those cute couples walking down the street, holding hands, dancing together, going to an event you just have to go to, goodness forbid a wedding because they always try to hook you up with someone.  Your friends and yes, even your family, are going to question you constantly and look at you like you have two heads, because you’re waiting on your love to come home and are so very far apart. It seems that when they can’t see you together, they want to pressure you into dating someone.  There can be NO other consideration of other people.  That will cause resentment and question each other’s devotion. 

Two in love can make it but it takes thought, imagination, and perseverance. It even takes sometimes turning away when you see that couple and your heart breaks in two for your longing. It’s the only thing you can do in your day.  But hang in there.  It will end and you and your love will be together again.

Both of you have to stay positive, remember your love and above all else…..COMMUNICATE!!  Distance may be between you but you can’t let it distance your hearts and let each other go.  Phone calls can get very expensive very quickly.  These days there are so many ways to stay connected: email, video mail, texting, sms, black berry, instant messaging, just to name a few.

Even if your love is away working so very hard, either one of you can send simple one line text messages through the day just to simply say, “Hi, I’m thinking of you” or how about “I miss you”.  It’s not expensive nor does it take a lot of time. You don’t even have to do it 100 time’s day or even every day.  It’s not hard but it does show how much you care.  Something so simple can show so much.  Sometimes, it’s just enough to have that to hold onto and know your love misses you and thinks of you too.  It may keep your loved one going for another week even.  Your text may even be the bright spot in his otherwise busy work day. 

Why don’t you, once in a while, text or instant message her that you’re going to give her a special call that night at a particular time?  It’ll lift her/his heart and give you both a bright spot to look forward to in your day.  Just make sure you make that call and don’t leave her hanging.

Sending him or her pictures of yourself, your home, kids, etc and letting them in on the daily grind is a great way to stay connected and keep them part of your day. Don’t complain and gripe about things all the time.  Keep it light.  He can do the same in return if he gets a chance. Just remember to always make sure that you combine this with some good old fashioned wooing.  That’s right wooing. 

Find one of his favorite quotes, maybe some Shakespeare, Longfellow, Tennyson, lyrics to a song you’ve just heard on the radio that made you think of her.  Be romantic.  Now is NOT the time to keep your heart hidden.  In a long distance relationship you are even more vulnerable to your love because you have to wear your heart on your sleeve in your communications.  You can’t just go on the, “she knows I love her”.  That’s hard even in a daily relationship. This helps to keep him knowing that your love is still strong and that she is in your heart.  It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, although the occasional one does help.

I won’t lie to you, there will be times that you will cry yourself to sleep because you miss him so much.  You’ll wonder about them, what they are doing, how they are, who they’re with, are they having fun.  Don’t let doubts and nasty thoughts cloud your love.  Let them know you think these things but that they are only fleeting because of your own insecurities.  When it gets to be way too much and it seems like your crashing, that’s when it’s even more important to communicate with each other and visit.  Yes he may be away, far away, but there are always ways to get back home and to each other. Why not take a trip yourself and go visit him.  Think with your heart and let it lead you to do those “foolish things”, those “romantic things” which will last you both a lifetime.

I know that every time my phone rings or a message comes in on the computer or cell, I get butterflies in my stomach just hoping it’s him.  I get all twitter patted at the thought the weekend is coming and maybe, just maybe, he’ll come home to surprise me.  Keep that anticipation alive and communicate your love and longing to one another.  You’ll make it through.  Your distance and separation from one another is temporary and may feel like a lifetime, but don’t forget that it does have an end date.  Love isn’t supposed to have an expiry date.  Let her know yours is unending and true. 

Shakespeare: “The course of true love never did run smooth”